Nancy-Ann advice on sex, love and erotic enhancements

First Orgasm

I received these two questions back to back about first orgasms.

I'm afraid when I actually do have my first orgasm I will pee on my boyfriend.
Is there any way to control your bladder without hindering an orgasm?
Also, what should I suggest for him to do to give me an orgasm so I don't disappoint him?

Thanks!

My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, we love being intimate whenever we get together, which isn’t very often. So far we've only had oral sex and she claims to love it, unfortunately to my undying shame I haven't been able to make her cum. I'd give anything to make her orgasm so my question was this: on my most recent oral expedition, she got really into it... I thought she was going to orgasm but she eventually calmed down and told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to keep going. She told me later she felt like she was going to pee, since she's never had an orgasm before, she wasn’t sure if that’s what it really was so I told her and showed her an article, that it is normal to experience this sensation. Fortunately I think that she's over that fear now just because she wants to have an orgasm, but our method is usually me licking her clit and fingering her, which leads me to my question: if she gets to that point again, should I keep fingering her or should I pull my finger, will it matter whether it delays her orgasm? I've noticed in some movies that the stars stop altogether when the girl is having an orgasm, do girls prefer this or does it vary? What should I do when she's getting ready to reach that almighty point?

Don't worry, it's very, very rare that an accident like that would happen during orgasm, though you may occasionally feel the sensation of having to pee right before! But if it's something you're concerned about, simply go to the bathroom before sex. As a side note, urinating before and after sex is highly recommended to avoid nasty little bladder infections.

As for how to have an orgasm - it concerned me a little that you're worried about having one so as not to disappoint him. Make sure that you focus on your own pleasure and satisfaction as well. Find out what you enjoy so that YOU are not disappointed.

That said, a little exploration will go a long way! Spend time touching yourself to discover what works for you. Hard, fast, soft, slow, here or there? Invest in some toys and then bring your boyfriend into the mix. Tell him what you found out you enjoy.

A good and considerate lover will be open to communication, and will be willing to work with you to find what gets you off. Very, very few women are able to reach orgasm from penetration/sex alone - it will probably require a combination of oral/manual stimulation. Most importantly, focus on finding what feels good and don't stress over the orgasm immediately. The more you think about it, the harder and less fun it will be!

Good luck, be safe, and have fun!