My penis is uncut and yet when I masturbate my foreskin becomes exposed and starts to get sensitive and it stings to the touch. I find this annoying. Is there any product that might help cut down on the irritation?

Jimmy

Whether circumcised or uncircumcised, the method of self sexual stimulation for all men is identical: the movement and friction created by using your own hands stimulates the nerve endings on the head and shaft of the penis. However, uncut men have more to worry about than their cut brothers.

Overly vigorous stimulation can sometimes lead to Phimosis and/or paraphimosis).
My gender limits me from giving you detailed advice, but one way to avoid the irritation you are experiencing is as simple as changing up your masturbatory approach and technique as well as lengthening the time between masturbatory intervals.

One effective way to reduce the onset of friction that might be leading your skin to become irritated is to use a good water-based lubricant (there are dozens of excellent Silicone-based lubricants on the market).  Silicone-based lubricants are your best bet since they do not tend to get sticky and therefore are less likely to cause irritation (click here to see a wide range of lubricants).
Hope this helps.

Dear Nancy:

I'll get right to the point. I'm a two-pump chump. I need help. I've tried several techniques exorcises and supplements. I'm recently divorced and would like to play the field before I settle down again, but the return rate is not so good because of this. I would really love to give them orgasms by penetration instead of orally or manually. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Less F.- Hotmail

Hmmm. A two-pump chump. Some of the obvious cures: Masturbate prior to having sex with your lady. Can't hurt to try: There's also "delay" creams available for men in your predicament, which helps desensitize the nerve endings in the tissue of skin around shaft and head of penis. One I know of off-hand is Doc Johnsons Power Delay Cream. I don't know how effective this particular product is, but is one of many of this type of product. Doc Johnsons just happens to be a name I know of.

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I just have a simple question. How do you give an earth-shattering blow-job to your boyfriend?

Every man likes different things when it comes to getting a blow-job, but I can give you the basics of an amazing blow-job. First cup his balls with one hand and take his entire penis into your mouth. Get him wet by pulling your tongue and lips from the base of his penis to the head. Hold the shaft of his penis in your hand and lick the head like you are licking an ice cream cone. Alternate this with sucking his penis as far into your mouth as you can. Often the combination of a hand-job at the base of the penis and a good wet suction at the head will help him come. Continue sucking until he comes. A lot of men love it when you swallow, but he may also want to ejaculate on your body.

I hear men enjoy their balls being stimulated while giving them oral pleasure or a hand job. This seems really odd to me in that I only have ever dealt with the shaft and the balls have always been "off-limits." Will a guy think it's weird if I actually did go for his balls? How would I approach them? When the best time to focus my attention on his nuts? Also, any other little oral tips you have would be great, thanks.

I doubt a guy will think it is weird if you “approach" his testicles. First you can just start out by playing with them while you give him head and massaging them. If he seems to like that, you can jerk him off for a little while you gently suck and lick his balls. Trust me, men really enjoy it. Some guys even like you to put both his testicles and his shaft in your mouth (if, of course, you are able). Open up the communication path and talk about this with your guy.

Some tips for oral sex.

1. We all know that sex and orgasms are 90% mental, even for men, so your mindset and the impression you give your boyfriend must be, "I love your penis and I love giving you head." Seems simple enough, but this first step is usually the downfall of most women. If you give the impression that giving oral sex is a chore, a favor, or in some way not pleasurable for you, it takes so much away from the experience. If he thinks, "She wants me in her mouth," you've got him. Dirty talk doesn't hurt either.

2. The teeth can never touch the penis. Period. You need to use your lips and tongue. Any contact with teeth -- even one tooth -- is distracting and may be painful.

3. Most men like to be simultaneously stimulated by the hand and the mouth. Just hold the penis at the bottom of the shaft and use your mouth up and down, getting in to a rhythm like you are giving him a hand job into your mouth. This is a great option if it is difficult for you to deep throat because of your gag reflex. Deep-throating is really overrated. If you do this he will never miss it.

4. Well, you might not like hearing this, but swallowing is really important. It is so erotic for a guy to ejaculate in a woman's mouth -- it takes the experience to a completely new level. No making faces, no saying "yuck" If you just cannot do it, then a reasonable alternative is to allow the guy to ejaculate on your body somewhere. That can be just as erotic.

A couple months ago, I noticed that the shaft of my penis beside the head and the foreskin around it became red, irritated, itchy, and it has some small spots on it. Sometimes there is no pain; other times it feels warm or just during intercourse it becomes very itchy and a bit painful. Is it some kind of allergy? Or it could be some kind of herpes infection?

I am very shy to visit my doctor.

Any advice?

A

Dear A,

Get to the doctor! This is a serious matter on many levels:

#1) Your health; and #2) The unfair possibility that you are likely passing on an STD to your partner.

Embarrassment IS NOT an option! You don’t have to visit your regular practitioner; any professional will do. Just get over it and take care of yourself. If not properly diagnosed and treated, your condition will only get worse and the likelihood of (unfairly) passing on a disease to one (or more) unsuspecting partners is unacceptable.

Hope this helps.

N-A