While making a love, I have to kiss a woman's nose. I can only have a relationship with a woman only if she has certain shaped nose. Luckily I have partner who does not mind this behavior during sex. Is this normal?

It is totally normal. You have a fetish for noses. A fetish is the displacement of sexual desire and fantasy onto alternative objects or body parts that aren't related to sex (feet, noses, ears, etc.) Your partner is okay with your fetish, so I would not worry about it. Get some.

I see a lot of successful women today living in co-habitating relationship with men.

Is this really a healthy thing and how successful are these situations over a marriage or being single and not living together? It seems to me that the man has the better end of the deal without committing to a marriage. In a co-habitating situation, it seems like sex is based on a rent basis.

Do these relationship last and are they healthy? We not considering children in the scene.

What is your thoughts on this?

Well, Joe, I live with my boyfriend - we've been dating for 5+ years and living together for about 3. Speaking from my own experience, I think it's very healthy, and he isn't the only one benefiting from this situation! I, too, love having sex available to me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!

It depends on each individual couple, really. Some aren't ready for, or interested in, marriage. That doesn't mean they don't want a commitment or to share their lives in some way. With divorce rates being so high these days, many younger people see it as a way to "try the car before they buy it" - to take the relationship further before making the final decision to marry. I, personally, would never marry someone before living with them first. I don't believe that I can really know someone unless I do.

Financially it also makes sense for many people. If they each pay rent on their own apartments, but spend most nights together at his or her place, why not just split the cost and pay one rent?

And for some, there's the distance issue. I know many people who were in long-distance relationships and it made more sense for one of them to move closer to the other and see how that worked before considering marriage (or instead of - again, not everyone is interested in marriage, and there's nothing wrong with that)!

Long story short, in this day and age it's the norm. And I think it's smart.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we have sex its great but I can't get him to go down on me but for a few minutes, he says he won't do it for longer than that because of a previous experience of a woman lying to him about not being on her monthly cycle and she was. Now he deprives me of the one thing I want.

How can I make him realize that I'm not like her?

Please help me!

What a load of crap.

IF that were true - then you say, "Honey, we have to have a relationship based on trust. If it bothers you that much, I promise to always warn you when I'm bleeding like a stuck pig. You can even be let off duty the day after it ends as well, just to play it safe, but the days in between, you gotta give me more than a few minutes down there." Then you give him a calendar where he can mark the days of your cycle just so he can keep an eye on it himself. But realistically - sorry, but he's full of it. He just doesn't like doing it for some reason.

I'll bet one of three things is going on:
A) He's nervous and is afraid he sucks at it, in which case be as encouraging as possible.

B) Maybe he doesn't like to do it because... well, maybe you aren't the freshest flower in the bunch, ya know what I mean? Make a habit of showering first, then enticing him to have sex, and ask him to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE go down on you. See if you notice any difference in how long he stays down there.

Or

C) He's just a selfish, selfish man. If there's no good reason - he just doesn't wanna - then decide if you can live with it or not. I dated a guy for 4 years who did that for me TWICE. TWICE in four years. I decided I couldn't live with that, and have now been with someone for 5 years (and counting) who does everything I could ever dream of with enthusiasm.

But the big problem here is that he's making excuses and not being honest with you.  Demand he tell you what's REALLY going on, and go from there.

First I would love to thank you for this site. Your advice and truthfulness about sex have been reassuring. Many of my fears about my sexual abilities have been put to rest thanks to you.

But the problem I am having right now is being a minute man, or two. Usually the excitement of a new relationship leads to my issue of quick orgasms. After the initial excitement cools I am able to last much longer. The girlfriend I have had for the last 2 years still has me excited when it comes to sex. I am happy to last 5 minutes. She says she is satisfied but I get the feeling she is protecting me from embarrassment. I have had a couple of times that I have been able to last for 25-30 minutes and notice that she seems more satisfied after those sessions than with the one and done. I have read that when masturbating if you masturbate right up to the point of climax and stop until it starts to pass and start masturbating again, repeating this several times helps build up longevity. This is based on the fact that men for the most part from adolescences masturbate as quickly as possible and that we have trained ourselves to reach orgasm level as quickly as possible. Your thoughts please.

I love this girl very much and I am concerned that she is missing out on the sexual part of the relationship. I have never been selfish when it comes to sex and feel like a chump. My greatest pleasure is giving her pleasure.

Sincerely, Minute Man

P.S. I can only image how wonderful it must be to be your boyfriend. A woman that is that open to sex and has intellect and knowledge is surely one of a kind.

Dear Minute Man,

You are too kind. I am so glad that my sexpertise has been of help to you. You are entirely correct about taking your time while masturbating. Little boys are taught that pleasuring yourself is shameful, so time is not taken to really explore your own pleasure. You and your girlfriend might try masturbating together. Really take your time. When you think you are about to come, cool down. Don't let yourself ejaculate. Eventually you will add time onto your performance. Then when you are actually having sex, try not moving. have your girlfriend on top and have her be the one that sets the rhythm. If you think you are about to come, have her stop. Cool down and begin again.

It may also help to make sure that your woman is near the point of orgasm before you actually enter her. A little oral sex can go a long way ... Thank you for all your kind words, and I hope that this advice finds you and your lady sexually satisfied.

The issue I have involves my wife and me. It seems like as time progresses my sex drive has increased when my wife's has taken a nose dive and continues diving. When we first met it was anytime, anyplace. Now we're lucky to have sex twice a month and those two times it seems like I'm the only one there. She has actually fallen asleep while I was going down on her! I have read so many books and articles on this subject, even tried movies and toys but nothing is working. If it is brought up in discussion it always turns into a huge argument. She no longer initiates sex or wants to change positions during sex. It's just like as long as I don't move her from her back or wake her up it's okay. I don't know what to do. I love my wife with all of my heart and I don't want this to be an issue but I miss making love to her. Please help.

This is a really common problem that most long-term couples have. It is not necessarily a reflection of whether or not your relationship is at, but rather just a natural fact that people become accustomed to one another.

Have you asked your wife how she is feeling about herself? Does she know how much you want her? Not just her body, but how important she is to you? No amount of trying to spice things up can replace the basics of bringing romance and desire into your relationship. Try spending what her idea of a perfect day is whether her. Go back to the beginning, and try courting her again. Let her remember why she fell in love with you, and my bet would be that the sex will follow. Let her know how much you still want her, and not just for your own gratification. Let her know that you want the union that you had in the beginning. Spicing things up isn't always the answer.

Sometimes it is going back to the basics of affection rather than sexuality. Try massages that don't necessarily lead to sex. Eventually they will. I know it is a difficult and frustrating road, but she may not being having a problem with you, rather herself. Start by rebuilding what you have between the two of you that exists outside of sex.

I am a 30 year old guy. My girlfriend of 3 years and I have a 7 month old son together. Before the baby we had a good sex life and now if we have sex once a month we just have it because we did not have sex. When I try to get things started it is "I am tired" or "I have a headache" or she just doesn't want to. What should I do about this? I love my girl very much and I just can't handle this for much longer.

I know it's difficult when it seems like the passion has left a relationship. As your relationship has changed with the arrival of a child, perhaps you try changing up some of your sex techniques. Find out what really turns your girlfriend on. Try some new things. Think about what really makes you hot and let her know. Routine can often make things dull ... remember that. You may try using some sex toys or porno. There is nothing wrong with stepping outside of your normal activities. Try to reconnect sexually by finding out exactly what your girlfriend wants from you and the give it to her.