Nancy-Ann advice on sex, love and erotic enhancements

30Jul/090

Anal Sex Convincing?

How do I convince my wife to agree to anal sex?

My advice would be to ask her. Tell her that you think that it is really hot and you will make sure that you don’t hurt her. Make sure that she is completely relaxed. Maybe have a couple glasses of wine. If she is not relaxed it will hurt her. Make sure that you prepare her by inserting a finger or two into her anus. Use lubrication, it helps. You can use something like KY Jelly or lotion. Very slowly put your penis into your anus and tell her that if at any time she feels too uncomfortable that you will stop.

As a side note, do not pull your penis all the way out and then reinsert it fully again. This is a little painful. Good luck.

Update: From Askmen.com

Because anal sex feels good

Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.

21Jul/090

First Time Anal

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and we have been experimenting with anal sex. We are having trouble with her relaxing her muscles. We have used various toys and my fingers but I can not insert my penis because I'm afraid I will hurt her. Can you recommend any exercises, positions or sex toys that will help?

Patience is really the biggest thing you need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex -- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to receive your penis.

Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers is probably enough.

For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start. As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. Listen to her -- if she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.

Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more. As a side note, a couple glasses of wine before starting may help calm her fears of pain and leave you both open to a more relaxed situation. Good luck. Be gentle.

19Jul/090

Butt be Clean

My wife an I enjoy anal, but cleaning yourself out for it is a time consuming thing. when watching porn, the women in the movie are so clean, and there is no shit or film on anal ring. how is it done?

The way that most porn-stars get their asses so clean, is by having an enema 1-3 hours before the anal shoot.

First. let me say that an enema isn't necessary in order to have safe, relatively clean anal sex. Many people find that a nice warm and soapy shower or bath and going to the bathroom before anal sex gets them pretty clean. But other people find that an enema helps reassure them about the cleanliness of their asses and the emptiness of their bowels.

If you've never had an enema before, you may want to start with an anal douche; these are popularly called "enemas," but are less complicated to administer. You can buy a Fleet Enema, which has a pre-lubricated nozzle and is easy to use. Make sure you empty out the chemical solution and refill the bottle with plain warm water that feels like it's around body temperature. Squeeze the bottle to release the water into your rectum. Wait a few minutes, go sit on the toilet and let nature take its course. You can repeat the anal douche (about 2-3 times) until your bowels are completely cleaned out.

Giving yourself an enema with an enema bag takes a little more skill, so i suggest that you start with the anal douche.

If you're having an anal douche or enema in preparation for anal sex, you should do it at least 2-3 hours prior to the sex to give your body a chance to reabsorb water and recover. It's not a good idea to have enemas too frequently. They tend to stress out your rectum and too much of this can really throw your rectum, bowels and gastrointestinal tract off balance.