I just have a simple question. How do you give an earth-shattering blow-job to your boyfriend?

Every man likes different things when it comes to getting a blow-job, but I can give you the basics of an amazing blow-job. First cup his balls with one hand and take his entire penis into your mouth. Get him wet by pulling your tongue and lips from the base of his penis to the head. Hold the shaft of his penis in your hand and lick the head like you are licking an ice cream cone. Alternate this with sucking his penis as far into your mouth as you can. Often the combination of a hand-job at the base of the penis and a good wet suction at the head will help him come. Continue sucking until he comes. A lot of men love it when you swallow, but he may also want to ejaculate on your body.

My penis is really, REALLY SMALL, and I am afraid that when time comes for me to have sex with my girlfriend, she will just laugh, and then dump me for being really small. What can I do?!?!??!

What can you do? There is only one option. Tell her.

You can't know until you try. Worst case is that you will get laughed at and/or she will dump you. Best case is that she won't care what size you are. You won't find out unless you talk to her.

The question : Does size matter?
The answer: Yes. But....

But... not to all women. Some women are "size queens" and size is of vital importance. Other women are far more concerned about technique or foreplay or simply personality.

I don't know what you mean by REALLY small. Average is 5" to 6". Small would be below 5" and REALLY small would be below 4". In my mind at any rate. Size is also in the eyes of the beholder. If your girlfriend is a virgin or has only been with lesser endowed men then she won't be put off.

Also, woman's vagina's vary in size too. Some women want a smaller penis as larger ones hurt them.

Good luck.

My wife is pregnant and has no interest at all in sex or sexual acts what so ever. My question to you would be, what if any is your advice to arouse pregnant woman, I have tried a lot but nothing seems to work.

Thanks for any advice!

I'm sorry to tell you, if your wife is pregnant that's a perfectly understandable and legitimate reason to have zero interest in sex for awhile. You're just going to have to be understanding and patient - and maybe take matters into your own hands in the meantime!

How can I get my wife to give me head & have anal sex?

OOOH!! There's a loaded question.

Let's start with the basics - have you ever asked her? (Have you asked her in a nice, loving and non whiny or demanding way?) Do you return the favor? (I just finished writing out again that I believe oral sex should be a two-way street. Don't expect someone to do for you what you won't do for them.)

Let's start with the easy one - how do you get her to blow you...

Before I go any further, I must tell you that it is VERY VERY IMPORTANT that you never nag, get demanding, manipulative, angry or wear her down asking every day. Always be patient, and that to do these things for you would put her in a wonderful position of having you turn to putty in your hands. I'm amazed at how many men whine and wheedle, "C'mon, blow me," instead of something simple and nice like, '"Having your mouth on me would turn me into complete putty." Or something.

With that said, has she ever tried? Does she flat out refuse or does she try but have a difficult time of it? DO NOT make her feel pressured. Ask her one night, nicely, to please try or try again. If she says no, ASK HER to please think about it, and try when she feels ready. That will make her feel like she has some control over it, that she's not being pressured and will most likely catch her in a mood where she feels like doing something for you.

There are 3 reasons women don't want to give blow-jobs: they're afraid they'll be no good at it, they have a bad gag reflex, or they think it's "gross." The gag reflex can be dealt with - tell her to start out slow, don't worry about taking the whole enchilada into her mouth at once. Do what she can, comfortably - trust me, you can build up a strong gag reflex with practice.

If she thinks it's gross... seduce the hell out of her and go on about how sexy all her 2000 parts are and try to slowly change her view of "gross" to "hot as hell."

If all that works, no matter how it turns out, GO ON AND ON AND ON, afterward about how amazing it was to have her do that to you, and how appreciative you are and something like "YOWSA!! That felt good." Do not immediately mention her doing it again. The key is to make her feel like she's in a position of power and that she was damn hot in that position.

The same stuff goes for your second request. Except it's probably going to be waaaaaaay harder to talk her into that one. I've found that women typically go in one of two directions with the anal sex thing. Love it or hate it. Minds can be changed, women can be convinced, but this is one you may have to resign yourself to never being allowed to do. At the very least, we can see if she'll at least TRY it once, right? And tell her that - just try it twice and if it's absolutely horrible and she just can't get her mind around it, you won't ask again. (I say twice because that first nervous experimental time isn't a good gauge for either of you.)

Now - women don't want to do THIS one for many reasons: it's "gross", it's too taboo & kinky and they're not supposed to want to do that, it's uncomfortable or painful or they're afraid it will be, or just plain old-fashioned embarrassment. Same as before - don't beg, threaten, demand. Ask nicely, make her feel sexy yadda yadda yadda. Everything I said previously but EVEN MORE SO. Tell her if she'll just TRY it, you'll go at a pace that's comfortable for her, you'll stop if she needs you to, that it will make you the happiest man on the planet (the point is it should make her feel hot & sexy not shy or uncomfortable). Don't make TOO big a fuss of it if she agrees, or it becomes awkward, but do plan ahead. I've already written too much to go into technique here - your question is how to get her to do it, not how to do it, eh? Ask me that after she agrees. But DO offer to let her get a feel for it first with either toys or the good-old fingers. And I'm going to tell you to have a few drinks first.

Seriously. No, I mean SERIOUSLY. Not so many that you're both wasted, but enough that you have a good buzz. That will keep you both relaxed and up the likelihood that she'll enjoy it. Most women seem to hate it after trying it because they say it hurt - because they weren't relaxed enough. So that, of course, makes it less likely she'll do it again.

Good luck, and if she says yes, ask me all about the technique!

I was wondering if you knew anyone who offered in home sexual instruction or if you offered services such as those.

Thank you.

I know this type of service is available, it's just that you would have to research based on locale. Check the local weekly magazines in and around your area. Online Sex forums or question boards might be able to narrow down what you're looking for based on where you live.

Enter your nearby city into Craig’s List (www.craigslist.com) might be a place to start.

Hey there Nancy, got a question for you. I've been with my girlfriend for oh....almost four and a half years now. I am very attracted to her, but when it comes to getting some well....She's not always as excited as me! She's been on vacation all this week, kicking it at home and relaxing you know? Well, I snooped a little and I found out she has herself signed up for "cyber sex" on a COUPLE of different adult web sites!

Needless to say I was pissed, but I couldn't tell her I went snooping, you know? So my question is this. Since I'm not getting any, do you think she may possibing having these little conversations or chat sessions and getting her action that way? Should I be upset if she IS talking dirty with other people? Im stumped here and I just don't really know how to feel about this. I love her and I want to get my groove on, but she's just.....I don't know.

This is a sticky situation, but you absolutely should confront her. Yes, it's wrong to snoop, but... it's not a black and white situation. However, you did find something upsetting, she's been lying to you, and you need to talk about it. Open the conversation by telling her the lack of sex has been bothering you, and that you snooped (tell her what you told me - you felt bad about it, but...) and what you found. See what she has to say.

In this day and age, cyber sex and chats, etc are getting to be a big problem for many people and for many it's not clearly defined. I've had this conversation with my boyfriend and we've defined what is and is not acceptable. For me, it's cheating. Anything that he would not tell me about is probably crossing the line. To be fair, if you haven't defined what makes you uncomfortable or what crosses the line for you, give her a chance to talk about it. But once you tell her it's unacceptable to you, if she won't respect that or disagrees, you'll have to think about what that means for you. A good test is that if you hide it from your partner, you shouldn't be doing it.

I'm afraid when I actually do have my first orgasm I will pee on my boyfriend.
Is there any way to control your bladder without hindering an orgasm?
Also, what should I suggest for him to do to give me an orgasm so I don't disappoint him?

Thanks!

My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, we love being intimate whenever we get together, which isn’t very often. So far we've only had oral sex and she claims to love it, unfortunately to my undying shame I haven't been able to make her cum. I'd give anything to make her orgasm so my question was this: on my most recent oral expedition, she got really into it... I thought she was going to orgasm but she eventually calmed down and told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to keep going. She told me later she felt like she was going to pee, since she's never had an orgasm before, she wasn’t sure if that’s what it really was so I told her and showed her an article, that it is normal to experience this sensation. Fortunately I think that she's over that fear now just because she wants to have an orgasm, but our method is usually me licking her clit and fingering her, which leads me to my question: if she gets to that point again, should I keep fingering her or should I pull my finger, will it matter whether it delays her orgasm? I've noticed in some movies that the stars stop altogether when the girl is having an orgasm, do girls prefer this or does it vary? What should I do when she's getting ready to reach that almighty point?

Don't worry, it's very, very rare that an accident like that would happen during orgasm, though you may occasionally feel the sensation of having to pee right before! But if it's something you're concerned about, simply go to the bathroom before sex. As a side note, urinating before and after sex is highly recommended to avoid nasty little bladder infections.

As for how to have an orgasm - it concerned me a little that you're worried about having one so as not to disappoint him. Make sure that you focus on your own pleasure and satisfaction as well. Find out what you enjoy so that YOU are not disappointed.

That said, a little exploration will go a long way! Spend time touching yourself to discover what works for you. Hard, fast, soft, slow, here or there? Invest in some toys and then bring your boyfriend into the mix. Tell him what you found out you enjoy.

A good and considerate lover will be open to communication, and will be willing to work with you to find what gets you off. Very, very few women are able to reach orgasm from penetration/sex alone - it will probably require a combination of oral/manual stimulation. Most importantly, focus on finding what feels good and don't stress over the orgasm immediately. The more you think about it, the harder and less fun it will be!

Good luck, be safe, and have fun!

My wife and I enjoy oral sex very much. My question is: How do I prepare myself for ejaculation when my wife is orally pleasing me? I sometimes have the urge to ejaculate, but I cannot come in her mouth.

Help.

It is not unusual for men to have difficulty ejaculating during oral sex. My suggestion would be to have her give you head until you feel like you are close to coming. Then either have her give you a hand job until you come or you can take over and masturbate into her mouth. It takes a little practice, but is well worth the extra effort.

I have a question which is always disturbing me. Every time my penis get erected, is always come out a little fluid. The color crystal white like crazy glue. So basically my penis always get a little wet after couple minutes. My question is this normal? How can I stop this fluid?

Sweetie, this is entirely normal. It's called pre-cum. It's one of the best parts of sex. It means that your cock is ready for action. Take advantage of that lubrication and have your partner or yourself use it as lube to spend some time with the head of your penis, It's nature's lubricant and there is nothing abnormal about it. Love it!

Website’s that Border on Trademark Infringement

This practice has gotten out of control in the sexual enhancer arena, in particular. Many readers ask me about all kinds of products and as I research them on the Web, I’ve become alarmed at what some Werbsellers will stoop to in order to garner Web traffic.

So … Knowing that money is tight in these difficult economic times, and because reader have brought some of this behavior to light, as a service to my readers (and anyone that shops on the Web), I feel it’s my duty to give out a few “protection” pointers when shopping for sexual enhancements on the Web. Show people some examples of bogus or shadow sites, and provide some simple ways to use these fictitious sites to your advantage in order to find the better product you are looking for.

One Random Example

For example, this is a random site (I’ve heard of Orexis because of consumer complaints; I’ve never heard of Zenerx) I’ve pulled of Google to illustrate how a shadow site is intended to work and how to spot what product the site is shilling for:

The URL is http://impotenceguide.info/orexis-review.html

The corny doctor with the clipboard is the first dead giveaway; the 2d is the “comparision” chart. I clicked on “Let Us Know About Male Products You Have Used - Good and Bad” and emailed the Web administrator. Here’s what I posted:

“I've used both products: Orexis and Zenerx and found them to be of no help when it comes to helping erectile dysfunction. These products did not work, especially Zenerx.

There is no substitute for ED pharmaceuticals like Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra® Please compare Zenerx and Orexis with these top-selling ED medications.”

Because this ED “info” site is shilling for Zenerx, I can guarantee you not only will the site not publish my email, I will not even get a reply!

How to Spot Dubious Web Content

These sites are considered “shadow” or “shill” sites, meaning they are usually administered by a company selling a particular competing product. Shadow sites contain fabricated content (whether it be negative reviews of competitor’s product or fake or anonymous forum postings).The best way to spot these sites are if they are associated with sponsored ads (paid ads that are strategically placed on a search engine page (for example, Google) when a competitor’s product is typed in the search field. The obvious culprits are sites that claim to have hundreds of product reviews or product “comparison” charts. Some sites go as far as creating fictitious “awards” for the product that the page is shilling. Also, be on the lookout for sites with “blogs” that regardless of the product you are searching for, you are in some way magically “steered” to the same product that is somehow always mentioned as the “best” of the bunch.

Another dead giveaway is that the templates of each site (color, font, identical wording, etc) is almost always similar or exactly the same. This type of Web presence is illegal and dishonest.

How to Find Honest Product Reviews, Not Fake or “Planted” Ones

Before I list a bunch of the worst offenders, I want to explain how Web shoppers can discern honest user reviews from disguised ones.

The best way for users to find honest reviews and comments about products they’re thinking of purchasing is to read customer reviews on Amazon, eBay or some of the other legitimate auction sites. User comments found on sites like Amazon are verified before they are posted.

How Web Shoppers can Use These Fabricated Sites to Guide them to the Better Product

Companies that sell products that work don’t need to use their own product names to gain brand loyalty (For instance, the three ED medications I mentioned earlier (Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra®) speak for themselves.

Lets take a look at how someone using a search engine like Google can use the keywords that trigger all these “paid-for” sites to find the optimal product.

For an example, I typed “Serogen” into Google’s search bar.

Here’s some of the sponsored ads that came up:

www.viswiss.com

http://www.herbal-sex-secrets.com/

http://www.themanschoice.com

http://www.everestnutrition.com/?SSAID=279755

http://www.libidez.com/

Each Libidez™ capsule contains 420mg of an incredibly potent all-natural Erection Boosting Blend! This particular blend took over 7 years to perfect.

Libidez™ is comprised of a special blend of Herbs, Mushrooms and Greens.

Sexual Stimulant Blend 180mg

Organic Green Blend 60mg

I’ve also listed a few sites that have come up on the radar as “questionable.” The sites I’ve mentioned have either been reported by customers to consumer spots such as www.ripoffreport.com and www.complaints.com as well as sites with pending lawsuits against them as reported by Internet press release news services.

The following sites are guilty of this fraudulent behavior (most all of them are associated with the product, Orexis, distributed by Urban Nutrition.

www.ManTested.com

www.Herbal-Sex-Secrets.com

www.mensblogcustomers.com

www.themanschoice.com

www.mensblogtalk.com

I encourage my readers send email to me if you feel you have been misled or believe you have purchased a bogus product from a questionable Webseller.

Here are some other links to consumer complaints and board discussions that involve various male enhancement products (the names of the products are mentioned in the complaints and forum threads):

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/340/RipOff0340676.htm

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/129/RipOff0129374.htm#95699

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/059/RipOff0059819.htm

http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/rip-off-c146214.html

http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THD@@.899f24ac!thdchild=.899f24ac/6

http://learntheropes.net/reports/2009/01/the-truth-about-the-original-swedish-ropes-formula/