It's Mental
No point in saying it in a round-about way: something is wrong. Even during foreplay, I have trouble staying erect, or even getting it there, as soon as a woman touches me something happens inside and my little soldier doesn’t salute. This is difficult for me as well as my partner, help please!
Has this been a problem in the past? Are you able to masturbate to completion?
The cause of this could psychological in nature. Losing an erection or an absence of ejaculation is caused by any number of anxiety-related concerns. Some men have conscious and unconscious worries that effect erections or block ejaculations. They may worry about hurting the woman, about pregnancy, or they may have guilt about having sexual pleasure (often religious injunctions). They may have difficulties with intimacy and/or commitment. They may also be haunted by that nemesis of sexual dysfunctions -- performance anxiety. In other words, they are just plain trying too hard. In these instances the man is so concerned about giving his partner pleasure that he loses track of his own.
For you, my guess is the last reason. You want to see a doctor (since I am NOT one!). Have you tried Viagra, Cialis or Levitra? You may want to take that first step. Ask your doctor.
Hurts So Good.
My wife tells me that I'm big enough and that I hurt good. Am I too big, should I take it easy? I am happy married for twenty years and with in these years we have six children and great moments of love and sex. I was wondering are there other things that I can do, techniques or skills we may use on each other. Life and Love is wonderful but can I do more want to keep it going. Right now I'm in the Army, separated from family for a year and missing my wife's body. So when I get home don't want to hurt her. Send me other techniques on pleasing her.
Thank you.
You can tell whether or not you are hurting your wife by looking at her face while you are having sex. If she looks like she is in pain, she probably is. Some positions hurt your partner more than others if you have a large penis. The most painful will be her on top. The least painful will be with you from behind (doggy style). Missionary should be alright, but you need to ask her and pay attention to her body and its reactions. You can also try entering her from behind with her on her side. If you do decide to have intercourse from behind make sure that her clit is stimulated. You can either do this with your hands or tell her you think its sexy if she does it herself. Then you have the pleasure of satisfying her, but also watching her satisfy herself.
If you want to impress your wife with new techniques, my suggestion would be to focus as much attention as you can on her body, particularly her nipples and her clitoris. Really impress her by how turned on you are by her body. I guarantee she'll be pleased.
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