Two-Pump Chump
Dear Nancy:
I'll get right to the point. I'm a two-pump chump. I need help. I've tried several techniques exorcises and supplements. I'm recently divorced and would like to play the field before I settle down again, but the return rate is not so good because of this. I would really love to give them orgasms by penetration instead of orally or manually. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Hmmm. A two-pump chump. Some of the obvious cures: Masturbate prior to having sex with your lady. Can't hurt to try: There's also "delay" creams available for men in your predicament, which helps desensitize the nerve endings in the tissue of skin around shaft and head of penis. One I know of off-hand is Doc Johnsons Power Delay Cream. 
I don't know how effective this particular product is, but is one of many of this type of product. Doc Johnsons just happens to be a name I know of.
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Elusive G-Spot
I've been married for 28 years. My wife and I have sex 2-3 times per week. She has 1-2 orgasms each time we make love.
Sounds perfect, right?
I'm in a never ending search for the "g" spot. Does it really exist?
Wow - how wonderful that you guys are enjoying such an active sex life after 28 years! Yes, that sounds pretty perfect!
But ah, the elusive g-spot. I personally have not found mine, but many women will attest to it's existence. The most common and successful method I know of to find it is to start by having her lie down on her stomach.
Slide 1 or 2 fingers inside her, palm down (lubricant if necessary!) and crook your fingers down towards her navel in a "come hither" motion, about 2 to 3 inches up along her vaginal wall. Stroke gently or have her rotate her pelvis until you find a small section that feels a bit different - some say it feels like an almond under the skin, some say the skin feels different.
Most women say they feel a need to urinate when the gspot is stimulated, so that's one way to tell! If at first you don't succeed, try try again! It's not an easy task. There are also many toys out there designed to help find and stimulate. Check these out.
No Morning O's
Why is it that most of the times we have sex in the morning I very rarely have an orgasm, but any other time of day it's usually not a problem?
The reason that it is sometimes difficult for women to achieve orgasms in the a.m. is that our hormone levels are the lowest in the morning and the highest at night. It is, however, the opposite for men. My suggestion would be that you try some extended and slow foreplay. The morning might be the time for you to bring out the sex toys. Try having your partner perform oral sex. It's a great way to start your day, but you might have to put in a little bit of extra time.
First Orgasm
I received these two questions back to back about first orgasms.
I'm afraid when I actually do have my first orgasm I will pee on my boyfriend.
Is there any way to control your bladder without hindering an orgasm?
Also, what should I suggest for him to do to give me an orgasm so I don't disappoint him?Thanks!
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, we love being intimate whenever we get together, which isn’t very often. So far we've only had oral sex and she claims to love it, unfortunately to my undying shame I haven't been able to make her cum. I'd give anything to make her orgasm so my question was this: on my most recent oral expedition, she got really into it... I thought she was going to orgasm but she eventually calmed down and told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to keep going. She told me later she felt like she was going to pee, since she's never had an orgasm before, she wasn’t sure if that’s what it really was so I told her and showed her an article, that it is normal to experience this sensation. Fortunately I think that she's over that fear now just because she wants to have an orgasm, but our method is usually me licking her clit and fingering her, which leads me to my question: if she gets to that point again, should I keep fingering her or should I pull my finger, will it matter whether it delays her orgasm? I've noticed in some movies that the stars stop altogether when the girl is having an orgasm, do girls prefer this or does it vary? What should I do when she's getting ready to reach that almighty point?
Don't worry, it's very, very rare that an accident like that would happen during orgasm, though you may occasionally feel the sensation of having to pee right before! But if it's something you're concerned about, simply go to the bathroom before sex. As a side note, urinating before and after sex is highly recommended to avoid nasty little bladder infections.
As for how to have an orgasm - it concerned me a little that you're worried about having one so as not to disappoint him. Make sure that you focus on your own pleasure and satisfaction as well. Find out what you enjoy so that YOU are not disappointed.
That said, a little exploration will go a long way! Spend time touching yourself to discover what works for you. Hard, fast, soft, slow, here or there? Invest in some toys and then bring your boyfriend into the mix. Tell him what you found out you enjoy.
A good and considerate lover will be open to communication, and will be willing to work with you to find what gets you off. Very, very few women are able to reach orgasm from penetration/sex alone - it will probably require a combination of oral/manual stimulation. Most importantly, focus on finding what feels good and don't stress over the orgasm immediately. The more you think about it, the harder and less fun it will be!
Good luck, be safe, and have fun!
Ball Tying
I have tried tying my balls up during sex and it gives me a very intense cum shot. Is there any danger to this?
As long as you are not tying your balls up too tightly, it should not be a problem. I also do not suggest keeping your balls tied up when you are not either having sex or masturbating. This could affect your sperm count and reproductive health. Otherwise… enjoy.
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Anal Sex Convincing?
How do I convince my wife to agree to anal sex?
My advice would be to ask her. Tell her that you think that it is really hot and you will make sure that you don’t hurt her. Make sure that she is completely relaxed. Maybe have a couple glasses of wine. If she is not relaxed it will hurt her. Make sure that you prepare her by inserting a finger or two into her anus. Use lubrication, it helps. You can use something like KY Jelly or lotion. Very slowly put your penis into your anus and tell her that if at any time she feels too uncomfortable that you will stop.
As a side note, do not pull your penis all the way out and then reinsert it fully again. This is a little painful. Good luck.
Update: From Askmen.com
Because anal sex feels good
Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.
Recovery Time
I'm writing you this letter in concern of my libido. I often experience a long time of flaccid erection right after i ejaculate, and it's kind of bothering when your wife is waiting for a second round. I don't know if you can suggest or recommend me any supplement I can use to correct that. Also, while making love with my wife, I spend time touching and arousing her, until she's close to orgasm. But the problem is that she don't like to let it come, and often, her libido is not as its height. Can you also help her with that? I understand because she suffers from cancer.
As far as your libido, I have two suggestions. The first is that you try a supplement like Serogen along with some some strengthening exercises called Kegel Exercises. These will help with your control of your penis as well as your orgasms. The exercises are easy to do. Begin by stopping your urine in midstream next time you are peeing. This is the muscles you are trying to strengthen. Now try doing it when you are not peeing. Practice this is reps of ten throughout the day. You will notice a difference. My other suggestion is that while you are waiting to get your second wind, you stimulate your wife. Go down on her. Most women are multi-orgasmic. Go back to focusing on her body. Let her come. She may feel self-conscious about her body if she has suffered with cancer. You need to help her get back in touch with her body as her own. Let her know how attracted you still are to her, and that absolutely nothing has changed. Find the areas of her body that arouse both her and you, and really spend some time with them in order to re-arouse yourself and be ready for round two.
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