Elusive G-Spot
I've been married for 28 years. My wife and I have sex 2-3 times per week. She has 1-2 orgasms each time we make love.
Sounds perfect, right?
I'm in a never ending search for the "g" spot. Does it really exist?
Wow - how wonderful that you guys are enjoying such an active sex life after 28 years! Yes, that sounds pretty perfect!
But ah, the elusive g-spot. I personally have not found mine, but many women will attest to it's existence. The most common and successful method I know of to find it is to start by having her lie down on her stomach.
Slide 1 or 2 fingers inside her, palm down (lubricant if necessary!) and crook your fingers down towards her navel in a "come hither" motion, about 2 to 3 inches up along her vaginal wall. Stroke gently or have her rotate her pelvis until you find a small section that feels a bit different - some say it feels like an almond under the skin, some say the skin feels different.
Most women say they feel a need to urinate when the gspot is stimulated, so that's one way to tell! If at first you don't succeed, try try again! It's not an easy task. There are also many toys out there designed to help find and stimulate. Check these out.
Sexy Nose
While making a love, I have to kiss a woman's nose. I can only have a relationship with a woman only if she has certain shaped nose. Luckily I have partner who does not mind this behavior during sex. Is this normal?
It is totally normal. You have a fetish for noses. A fetish is the displacement of sexual desire and fantasy onto alternative objects or body parts that aren't related to sex (feet, noses, ears, etc.) Your partner is okay with your fetish, so I would not worry about it. Get some.
Male Menopause?
Dear Nancy,
I find myself in a rut. When making love to my wife, I get off and don't fell horny at all. It's good sex, then nothing. I need to get back into the swing of things. What do you suggest?
This is something more and more men are experiencing. First question is: How old are you?
The following suggestion is just a hunch (after all, I'm not a medical doctor!)
Men around 40 and above see a gradual shift in sexual behavior, as hormone production settles and the responsibilities and essentials of every-day living become prioritized. Although patterns differ drastically, many men see a tapering off in their sexual activity. Once they reach 40, it's natural for men to experience physical changes as metabolism slows and the body manufactures a lesser amount of testosterone. These obvious changes range from weight gain, hair loss, less physical endurance, longer recovery from injuries, and a waning interest in sex.
Men between the ages of 40 and 55, go through dramatic chemical and physiological changes that affect everything from a man's view on life, feelings of irritability and depression, to low libido resulting in a reduced interest in sex and in more extreme cases, an inability to attain and maintain an erection. Dramatic physical and emotional changes can be triggered by significant irregularities in hormone levels. Because of the similarities to the female traits, these symptoms combined are sometimes identified as “male menopause”; it is more commonly referred to in Europe as viropause or andropause.
Testosterone deficiency is usually misdiagnosed as general depression. My advice: see a doctor and have your testosterone levels checked. Once you find out if this could be the problem, speak with your medical doctor about the next steps.
Hurts So Good.
My wife tells me that I'm big enough and that I hurt good. Am I too big, should I take it easy? I am happy married for twenty years and with in these years we have six children and great moments of love and sex. I was wondering are there other things that I can do, techniques or skills we may use on each other. Life and Love is wonderful but can I do more want to keep it going. Right now I'm in the Army, separated from family for a year and missing my wife's body. So when I get home don't want to hurt her. Send me other techniques on pleasing her.
Thank you.
You can tell whether or not you are hurting your wife by looking at her face while you are having sex. If she looks like she is in pain, she probably is. Some positions hurt your partner more than others if you have a large penis. The most painful will be her on top. The least painful will be with you from behind (doggy style). Missionary should be alright, but you need to ask her and pay attention to her body and its reactions. You can also try entering her from behind with her on her side. If you do decide to have intercourse from behind make sure that her clit is stimulated. You can either do this with your hands or tell her you think its sexy if she does it herself. Then you have the pleasure of satisfying her, but also watching her satisfy herself.
If you want to impress your wife with new techniques, my suggestion would be to focus as much attention as you can on her body, particularly her nipples and her clitoris. Really impress her by how turned on you are by her body. I guarantee she'll be pleased.
Different Sex Drives
The issue I have involves my wife and me. It seems like as time progresses my sex drive has increased when my wife's has taken a nose dive and continues diving. When we first met it was anytime, anyplace. Now we're lucky to have sex twice a month and those two times it seems like I'm the only one there. She has actually fallen asleep while I was going down on her! I have read so many books and articles on this subject, even tried movies and toys but nothing is working. If it is brought up in discussion it always turns into a huge argument. She no longer initiates sex or wants to change positions during sex. It's just like as long as I don't move her from her back or wake her up it's okay. I don't know what to do. I love my wife with all of my heart and I don't want this to be an issue but I miss making love to her. Please help.
This is a really common problem that most long-term couples have. It is not necessarily a reflection of whether or not your relationship is at, but rather just a natural fact that people become accustomed to one another.
Have you asked your wife how she is feeling about herself? Does she know how much you want her? Not just her body, but how important she is to you? No amount of trying to spice things up can replace the basics of bringing romance and desire into your relationship. Try spending what her idea of a perfect day is whether her. Go back to the beginning, and try courting her again. Let her remember why she fell in love with you, and my bet would be that the sex will follow. Let her know how much you still want her, and not just for your own gratification. Let her know that you want the union that you had in the beginning. Spicing things up isn't always the answer.
Sometimes it is going back to the basics of affection rather than sexuality. Try massages that don't necessarily lead to sex. Eventually they will. I know it is a difficult and frustrating road, but she may not being having a problem with you, rather herself. Start by rebuilding what you have between the two of you that exists outside of sex.
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