First I would love to thank you for this site. Your advice and truthfulness about sex have been reassuring. Many of my fears about my sexual abilities have been put to rest thanks to you.
But the problem I am having right now is being a minute man, or two. Usually the excitement of a new relationship leads to my issue of quick orgasms. After the initial excitement cools I am able to last much longer. The girlfriend I have had for the last 2 years still has me excited when it comes to sex. I am happy to last 5 minutes. She says she is satisfied but I get the feeling she is protecting me from embarrassment. I have had a couple of times that I have been able to last for 25-30 minutes and notice that she seems more satisfied after those sessions than with the one and done. I have read that when masturbating if you masturbate right up to the point of climax and stop until it starts to pass and start masturbating again, repeating this several times helps build up longevity. This is based on the fact that men for the most part from adolescences masturbate as quickly as possible and that we have trained ourselves to reach orgasm level as quickly as possible. Your thoughts please.
I love this girl very much and I am concerned that she is missing out on the sexual part of the relationship. I have never been selfish when it comes to sex and feel like a chump. My greatest pleasure is giving her pleasure.
Sincerely, Minute Man
P.S. I can only image how wonderful it must be to be your boyfriend. A woman that is that open to sex and has intellect and knowledge is surely one of a kind.
Dear Minute Man,
You are too kind. I am so glad that my sexpertise has been of help to you. You are entirely correct about taking your time while masturbating. Little boys are taught that pleasuring yourself is shameful, so time is not taken to really explore your own pleasure. You and your girlfriend might try masturbating together. Really take your time. When you think you are about to come, cool down. Don't let yourself ejaculate. Eventually you will add time onto your performance. Then when you are actually having sex, try not moving. have your girlfriend on top and have her be the one that sets the rhythm. If you think you are about to come, have her stop. Cool down and begin again.
It may also help to make sure that your woman is near the point of orgasm before you actually enter her. A little oral sex can go a long way ... Thank you for all your kind words, and I hope that this advice finds you and your lady sexually satisfied.
