Dealing with a Profound Problem
I am a woman in my 50's and currently involved in the first stages of dating a man who is approximately the same age. He has confided in me his problem: erectile dysfunction (ED). He claims it is physiologically-based.
This is the first time I've encountered this. His sense of desolation is profound and hurts me. Anything I say only seems to make him frustrated and angry. Existing drugs and therapies are not options for various reasons.
Any advice you can give me would be welcome. I haven’t been able to find much information online for partners of men with ED.
Cynthia
Cynthia: Let me begin by saying that your patience and compassion are commendable. ED is a condition that couples go through TOGETHER. Couple’s counseling is great and speaking openly about the problem eases the anxiety men experience when dealing with ED.
ED is a problem that’s more common than people realize and its causes are too numerous to mention here. Consult a physician and educate yourself with the facts. The upside however, is that there are many treatment options outside of traditional pharmaceuticals and surgical procedures.
Most importantly, erectile dysfunction doesn’t have to mean the end of intimacy. Learning new positions, using accessories and educating yourself about various techniques that bring pleasure without intercourse, etc., can be a lot of fun.
I included the table of contents with my book recommendation on this subject. I also enclosed some helpful Web links.
Hope this helps.
Recommended Reading:Putting Impotence to Bed: What Every Woman & Man Needs to Know
More Resources:
http://www.8sxe.com/html/Sexual-Health/200905/27-164.html
http://www.draroras.com/index.php?module=article&pageid=53
Contradictory Claims
Nancy-Ann,
I have seen so many contradictory claims on various Web sites I have visited regarding Serogen, Ogoplex, Ropex, and others. I have yet to find any quantitative information on purity and dose of the active ingredients in any orgasm enhancers.
It would be nice to see fully documented and quantitative reports on "double blind" tests of the effectiveness of any sex enhancing product versus placebo in clinical trials. The ideal test would be where two groups are .selected one using the product and the other using sugar pills for a month or two or whatever and documenting quantitatively the sex frequency numbers, length of orgasm, rope count and recovery time for multiple orgasms. Then the rolls of the two groups are reversed and the test is repeated so that offset bias between the two groups is removed. Then the test could also compare effectiveness between different products, document the results and give product ingredient quantitative information so that the consumer can objectively compare them.
Is such data available? Could you forward it to me via email? If not could you give me a referral or point of contact for such data?
Don
There are a few clinical studies on cernitin (which is a generic form of the most popular Swedish flower pollen) and various groups of men with either benign prostate problems or sperm mobility issues. None I could find on the sexual effects of standardized pollen. My thinking is there would never be any UNBIASED studies comparing this type of sexual enhancer (the main reason it costs money for a third party to accomplish such a "scientific" task). Reviews on each product could be conducted, of course (and they are), but they are entirely biased and ultimately cannot be substantiated. I say this because all men are different and the end result is based on what each individual's "ideal" of just what and how much was "enhanced." (It's not much different as reading a wide variety of largely differing movie reviews: They are based on the critics "idea" of what they thought about the same movie.
I know because I conducted my first product review on male orgasm enhancers (click on my "product review" link). As you'll see, the reviews are based on the legitimacy of the distributors themselves, customer care, pricing, packaging and quantity (which, I've found, most always reflects the quality of the products sold).
Finding a group of men, having them try each product for a month, letting them cycle off for a month, then onto the next, and so on and so forth ... would take considerable time and effort for all parties involved. And still it would biased by a myriad amount of variables (one of which I mentioned above). Gathering all the products and having a third-party laboratory break down each formula in order to find which herbal amalgamation is superior, is, as I mentioned, is simply too expensive.
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