He Won't Go Down
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we have sex its great but I can't get him to go down on me but for a few minutes, he says he won't do it for longer than that because of a previous experience of a woman lying to him about not being on her monthly cycle and she was. Now he deprives me of the one thing I want.
How can I make him realize that I'm not like her?
Please help me!
What a load of crap.
IF that were true - then you say, "Honey, we have to have a relationship based on trust. If it bothers you that much, I promise to always warn you when I'm bleeding like a stuck pig. You can even be let off duty the day after it ends as well, just to play it safe, but the days in between, you gotta give me more than a few minutes down there." Then you give him a calendar where he can mark the days of your cycle just so he can keep an eye on it himself. But realistically - sorry, but he's full of it. He just doesn't like doing it for some reason.
I'll bet one of three things is going on:
A) He's nervous and is afraid he sucks at it, in which case be as encouraging as possible.
B) Maybe he doesn't like to do it because... well, maybe you aren't the freshest flower in the bunch, ya know what I mean? Make a habit of showering first, then enticing him to have sex, and ask him to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE go down on you. See if you notice any difference in how long he stays down there.
Or
C) He's just a selfish, selfish man. If there's no good reason - he just doesn't wanna - then decide if you can live with it or not. I dated a guy for 4 years who did that for me TWICE. TWICE in four years. I decided I couldn't live with that, and have now been with someone for 5 years (and counting) who does everything I could ever dream of with enthusiasm.
But the big problem here is that he's making excuses and not being honest with you. Demand he tell you what's REALLY going on, and go from there.
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