My penis is really, REALLY SMALL, and I am afraid that when time comes for me to have sex with my girlfriend, she will just laugh, and then dump me for being really small. What can I do?!?!??!

What can you do? There is only one option. Tell her.

You can't know until you try. Worst case is that you will get laughed at and/or she will dump you. Best case is that she won't care what size you are. You won't find out unless you talk to her.

The question : Does size matter?
The answer: Yes. But....

But... not to all women. Some women are "size queens" and size is of vital importance. Other women are far more concerned about technique or foreplay or simply personality.

I don't know what you mean by REALLY small. Average is 5" to 6". Small would be below 5" and REALLY small would be below 4". In my mind at any rate. Size is also in the eyes of the beholder. If your girlfriend is a virgin or has only been with lesser endowed men then she won't be put off.

Also, woman's vagina's vary in size too. Some women want a smaller penis as larger ones hurt them.

Good luck.

I am a 56 yr old black male who is having a problem with my erections.

Initially the cause was due to a mid-back injury. 3 herniated discs (non operable) that would cause muscle spasms that would end lovemaking with my wife. In September of last year I was diagnosed with diabetes. My doctor and diabetic nurse say that both can impact my ability to have or maintain an erection. When I am able to complete the act my ejaculation is nowhere near normal.

Is there anything that you can advise/suggest that my doctor and nurse have missed? The doctor just prescribed Viagra and it has not worked. I find it very depressing and I know that it is effecting my wife also because it bothers her that I cannot complete the act. She knows it is not her fault; I let her know that after 36 years of marriage I am still very much sexually attracted too her.

Thank you.

First of all, let me say that this must be a very frustrating situation for both you and your wife. It seems that first of all, you and your wife may need to revamp some of your ideas about sex. While it is frustrating that you are not able to ejaculate, that doesn't have to have such an impact of your wife's ideas about sex with you. Perhaps looking into some alternative sexual methods may make you feel closer to one another. My suggestion might be tantric sex, where emphasis is not placed on ejaculation, but being sexually present and satisfied with your partner. You do not have to let medical issues end your sexual relationship, but both you and your wife must be willing to explore new methods of arousal and satisfaction. Communication is essential as a first step. Good luck!

My girlfriend wants to kiss me and I wanna kiss her but she can't seem to do it because its her first time.

How can I make her feel comfortable so I can kiss her?

Ah... I remember my first kiss! 14 years later, I still get a case of the giggles the first time I kiss someone new! Taking me by surprise seems to be the only way past it, and it can be very romantic. My boyfriend & I have been together 5 years now - when he first tried to kiss me, I knew he was about to and would start laughing. He waited until I was leaving, and moved in to kiss me before I realized he was going to, and I never giggled again!

So - next time your with her, wait until she least expects it, maybe while you're watching tv. Keep it simple, move towards her and just give her a gentle kiss (no scaring her off by jamming your tongue down her throat, and just light pressure of your lips on hers ok? Don't bruise her, but let her know you're there!) , hold it for a couple seconds, then move away. That should be a nice, not intimidating first kiss that will hopefully make her feel a little more comfortable.

Good luck!

How do I convince my wife to agree to anal sex?

My advice would be to ask her. Tell her that you think that it is really hot and you will make sure that you don’t hurt her. Make sure that she is completely relaxed. Maybe have a couple glasses of wine. If she is not relaxed it will hurt her. Make sure that you prepare her by inserting a finger or two into her anus. Use lubrication, it helps. You can use something like KY Jelly or lotion. Very slowly put your penis into your anus and tell her that if at any time she feels too uncomfortable that you will stop.

As a side note, do not pull your penis all the way out and then reinsert it fully again. This is a little painful. Good luck.

Update: From Askmen.com

Because anal sex feels good

Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.