Need A Second Opinion
I am a 56 yr old black male who is having a problem with my erections.
Initially the cause was due to a mid-back injury. 3 herniated discs (non operable) that would cause muscle spasms that would end lovemaking with my wife. In September of last year I was diagnosed with diabetes. My doctor and diabetic nurse say that both can impact my ability to have or maintain an erection. When I am able to complete the act my ejaculation is nowhere near normal.
Is there anything that you can advise/suggest that my doctor and nurse have missed? The doctor just prescribed Viagra and it has not worked. I find it very depressing and I know that it is effecting my wife also because it bothers her that I cannot complete the act. She knows it is not her fault; I let her know that after 36 years of marriage I am still very much sexually attracted too her.
Thank you.
First of all, let me say that this must be a very frustrating situation for both you and your wife. It seems that first of all, you and your wife may need to revamp some of your ideas about sex. While it is frustrating that you are not able to ejaculate, that doesn't have to have such an impact of your wife's ideas about sex with you. Perhaps looking into some alternative sexual methods may make you feel closer to one another. My suggestion might be tantric sex, where emphasis is not placed on ejaculation, but being sexually present and satisfied with your partner. You do not have to let medical issues end your sexual relationship, but both you and your wife must be willing to explore new methods of arousal and satisfaction. Communication is essential as a first step. Good luck!
Hope for the uncut?
Is there anyway to make a penis bigger and longer if the penis isn't circumcises yet?
Does the skin cause a problem with becoming fully erect?
Also, every time I have sex with my wife, I don't last long, I orgasm before my wife. I've tried condoms, delay cream, and masturbating before having sex. It's not working.
Is there anyway to hold orgasm a little bit longer ?
Having your foreskin still has nothing to do with the length and size of your penis. If anything, the foreskin increases sensation. This helps the penis get as long as thick and as hard as possible. Removal of your foreskin would not have any benefit at all in regards to the size of your penis.
There are a few things that you can try to help you wait to cum. My first suggestion would be to slow your breathing while you are having sex. If you can slow your rhythm down, it can help delay orgasm. Instead of shallow and fast breaths, breath deeply and slowly. You can also practice holding off cumming by taking your time masturbating. Slowly get yourself as hard as you can. Take your time working yourself into a complete erection. Do not ejaculate. Let the erection go down a bit. Start over again. See how long you can keep yourself hard and aroused without ejaculating. Finally, let yourself ejaculate. This will help extend how long it takes for you to cum.
Finally, you can also arouse your girlfriend until she is just about to cum, either with you mouth or hands, and then have sex with her. Or let her cum first and then you can try to make her cum again with your penis.
It's Mental
No point in saying it in a round-about way: something is wrong. Even during foreplay, I have trouble staying erect, or even getting it there, as soon as a woman touches me something happens inside and my little soldier doesn’t salute. This is difficult for me as well as my partner, help please!
Has this been a problem in the past? Are you able to masturbate to completion?
The cause of this could psychological in nature. Losing an erection or an absence of ejaculation is caused by any number of anxiety-related concerns. Some men have conscious and unconscious worries that effect erections or block ejaculations. They may worry about hurting the woman, about pregnancy, or they may have guilt about having sexual pleasure (often religious injunctions). They may have difficulties with intimacy and/or commitment. They may also be haunted by that nemesis of sexual dysfunctions -- performance anxiety. In other words, they are just plain trying too hard. In these instances the man is so concerned about giving his partner pleasure that he loses track of his own.
For you, my guess is the last reason. You want to see a doctor (since I am NOT one!). Have you tried Viagra, Cialis or Levitra? You may want to take that first step. Ask your doctor.
Erectile Dysfunction
Nancy, could you explain me details about erection dysfunctions? How does it happen and how to cure it?
There are a lot of physical and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction. Reduced blood flow to the penis and nerve damage are the most common physical causes. Underlying conditions related to erectile dysfunction include the following:
Vascular disease- Diabetes
- Drugs
- Hormone disorders
- Neurologic conditions
- Pelvic trauma, surgery, radiation therapy
- Peyronie's disease
- Venous leak
- Psychological conditions
So, it is always my advice that you see a doctor first, so you can narrow down why you are having erectile dysfunction. As far as treatment for erectile dysfunction:
Sex Therapy
A significant number of men develop impotence from psychological causes that can be overcome.
Medical Treatment
- Oral Medications like Viagra or Levitra.
- Self-Injection to produce erections for about a half-hour.
- Penis pumps can help produce erections in men who are already able to get a semi.
I hope this helps. My first advice is to see a professional to understand why the erectile dysfunction is occurring.
Ball Tying
I have tried tying my balls up during sex and it gives me a very intense cum shot. Is there any danger to this?
As long as you are not tying your balls up too tightly, it should not be a problem. I also do not suggest keeping your balls tied up when you are not either having sex or masturbating. This could affect your sperm count and reproductive health. Otherwise… enjoy.
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Recovery Time
I'm writing you this letter in concern of my libido. I often experience a long time of flaccid erection right after i ejaculate, and it's kind of bothering when your wife is waiting for a second round. I don't know if you can suggest or recommend me any supplement I can use to correct that. Also, while making love with my wife, I spend time touching and arousing her, until she's close to orgasm. But the problem is that she don't like to let it come, and often, her libido is not as its height. Can you also help her with that? I understand because she suffers from cancer.
As far as your libido, I have two suggestions. The first is that you try a supplement like Serogen along with some some strengthening exercises called Kegel Exercises. These will help with your control of your penis as well as your orgasms. The exercises are easy to do. Begin by stopping your urine in midstream next time you are peeing. This is the muscles you are trying to strengthen. Now try doing it when you are not peeing. Practice this is reps of ten throughout the day. You will notice a difference. My other suggestion is that while you are waiting to get your second wind, you stimulate your wife. Go down on her. Most women are multi-orgasmic. Go back to focusing on her body. Let her come. She may feel self-conscious about her body if she has suffered with cancer. You need to help her get back in touch with her body as her own. Let her know how attracted you still are to her, and that absolutely nothing has changed. Find the areas of her body that arouse both her and you, and really spend some time with them in order to re-arouse yourself and be ready for round two.
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SCAM SITE REPORTS
The nature of the Web has changed in the last year. Companies that sell products use sneaky optimization practices, create “shadow” sites and write negative reviews and comments about their competitor’s products in the hope to steal the competition away and lure them to the actual Web site that sells the site that gets all the made up accolades. The more you search the Web for products, the more you’ll see these kinds of sites. They are practically identical in nature and companies pay a great deal of money to “buy” these ad positions on search engines like Google and Yahoo. In order to have their advertisements seen they pay more money for their competitions’ product and company name, more money than the competitors pay for their trademarked names themselves!
Website’s that Border on Trademark Infringement
This practice has gotten out of control in the sexual enhancer arena, in particular. Many readers ask me about all kinds of products and as I research them on the Web, I’ve become alarmed at what some Werbsellers will stoop to in order to garner Web traffic.
So … Knowing that money is tight in these difficult economic times, and because reader have brought some of this behavior to light, as a service to my readers (and anyone that shops on the Web), I feel it’s my duty to give out a few “protection” pointers when shopping for sexual enhancements on the Web. Show people some examples of bogus or shadow sites, and provide some simple ways to use these fictitious sites to your advantage in order to find the better product you are looking for.
For example, this is a random site (I’ve heard of Orexis because of consumer complaints; I’ve never heard of Zenerx) I’ve pulled of Google to illustrate how a shadow site is intended to work and how to spot what product the site is shilling for:
The URL is http://impotenceguide.info/orexis-review.html
The corny doctor with the clipboard is the first dead giveaway; the 2d is the “comparision” chart. I clicked on “Let Us Know About Male Products You Have Used - Good and Bad” and emailed the Web administrator. Here’s what I posted:
“I've used both products: Orexis and Zenerx and found them to be of no help when it comes to helping erectile dysfunction. These products did not work, especially Zenerx.
There is no substitute for ED pharmaceuticals like Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra® Please compare Zenerx and Orexis with these top-selling ED medications.”
Because this ED “info” site is shilling for Zenerx, I can guarantee you not only will the site not publish my email, I will not even get a reply!
How to Spot Dubious Web Content
These sites are considered “shadow” or “shill” sites, meaning they are usually administered by a company selling a particular competing product. Shadow sites contain fabricated content (whether it be negative reviews of competitor’s product or fake or anonymous forum postings).The best way to spot these sites are if they are associated with sponsored ads (paid ads that are strategically placed on a search engine page (for example, Google) when a competitor’s product is typed in the search field. The obvious culprits are sites that claim to have hundreds of product reviews or product “comparison” charts. Some sites go as far as creating fictitious “awards” for the product that the page is shilling. Also, be on the lookout for sites with “blogs” that regardless of the product you are searching for, you are in some way magically “steered” to the same product that is somehow always mentioned as the “best” of the bunch.
Another dead giveaway is that the templates of each site (color, font, identical wording, etc) is almost always similar or exactly the same. This type of Web presence is illegal and dishonest.
How to Find Honest Product Reviews, Not Fake or “Planted” Ones
Before I list a bunch of the worst offenders, I want to explain how Web shoppers can discern honest user reviews from disguised ones.
The best way for users to find honest reviews and comments about products they’re thinking of purchasing is to read customer reviews on Amazon, eBay or some of the other legitimate auction sites. User comments found on sites like Amazon are verified before they are posted.
How Web Shoppers can Use These Fabricated Sites to Guide them to the Better Product
Companies that sell products that work don’t need to use their own product names to gain brand loyalty (For instance, the three ED medications I mentioned earlier (Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra®) speak for themselves.
Lets take a look at how someone using a search engine like Google can use the keywords that trigger all these “paid-for” sites to find the optimal product.
For an example, I typed “Serogen” into Google’s search bar.
Here’s some of the sponsored ads that came up:
www.viswiss.com
http://www.herbal-sex-secrets.com/
http://www.themanschoice.com
http://www.everestnutrition.com/?SSAID=279755
http://www.libidez.com/
Each Libidez™ capsule contains 420mg of an incredibly potent all-natural Erection Boosting Blend! This particular blend took over 7 years to perfect.
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I’ve also listed a few sites that have come up on the radar as “questionable.” The sites I’ve mentioned have either been reported by customers to consumer spots such as www.ripoffreport.com and www.complaints.com as well as sites with pending lawsuits against them as reported by Internet press release news services.
The following sites are guilty of this fraudulent behavior (most all of them are associated with the product, Orexis, distributed by Urban Nutrition.
www.ManTested.com
www.Herbal-Sex-Secrets.com
www.mensblogcustomers.com
www.themanschoice.com
www.mensblogtalk.com
I encourage my readers send email to me if you feel you have been misled or believe you have purchased a bogus product from a questionable Webseller.
Here are some other links to consumer complaints and board discussions that involve various male enhancement products (the names of the products are mentioned in the complaints and forum threads):
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/340/RipOff0340676.htm
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/129/RipOff0129374.htm#95699
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/059/RipOff0059819.htm
http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/rip-off-c146214.html
http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THD@@.899f24ac!thdchild=.899f24ac/6
http://learntheropes.net/reports/2009/01/the-truth-about-the-original-swedish-ropes-formula/