Dear Nancy-Ann, I have no problem getting an erection. As a matter of fact I can get it up everyday if necessary. My problem is with ejaculation. My girlfriend loves oral sex and isn't satisfied unless I come in her mouth. She wants to swallow as much of my semen as she can get but the problem is she is not getting any because when I climax there is no semen pumping out of my penis.

My penis throbs like I was going to come but no semen. All my climaxes have been dry runs. What is my problem and will any of the Serogen products work for me?

Bobby

Well Bobby, let me first say I don’t know who I envy more, you or girlfriend. A partner who’s willing AND able is every girls wish. As for your lack of ejaculate during climax, that may be potentially more serious. It sounds like what you are experiencing is a condition called retrograde ejaculation. The causes range from diabetes, BPH, side effects of certain prescription meds, or the results of surgical procedures. I am not a doctor, so please don’t take this as a professional diagnosis!! Get to a doctor.

I am an outspoken believer in the beneficial qualities of Serogen, as it promotes overall prostate health. In your case, I suggest you consult a urologist as soon as possible to get your condition diagnosed correctly so you then find out from a professional what your options are.

I am a 56 yr old black male who is having a problem with my erections.

Initially the cause was due to a mid-back injury. 3 herniated discs (non operable) that would cause muscle spasms that would end lovemaking with my wife. In September of last year I was diagnosed with diabetes. My doctor and diabetic nurse say that both can impact my ability to have or maintain an erection. When I am able to complete the act my ejaculation is nowhere near normal.

Is there anything that you can advise/suggest that my doctor and nurse have missed? The doctor just prescribed Viagra and it has not worked. I find it very depressing and I know that it is effecting my wife also because it bothers her that I cannot complete the act. She knows it is not her fault; I let her know that after 36 years of marriage I am still very much sexually attracted too her.

Thank you.

First of all, let me say that this must be a very frustrating situation for both you and your wife. It seems that first of all, you and your wife may need to revamp some of your ideas about sex. While it is frustrating that you are not able to ejaculate, that doesn't have to have such an impact of your wife's ideas about sex with you. Perhaps looking into some alternative sexual methods may make you feel closer to one another. My suggestion might be tantric sex, where emphasis is not placed on ejaculation, but being sexually present and satisfied with your partner. You do not have to let medical issues end your sexual relationship, but both you and your wife must be willing to explore new methods of arousal and satisfaction. Communication is essential as a first step. Good luck!

No point in saying it in a round-about way: something is wrong. Even during foreplay, I have trouble staying erect, or even getting it there, as soon as a woman touches me something happens inside and my little soldier doesn’t salute. This is difficult for me as well as my partner, help please!

Has this been a problem in the past? Are you able to masturbate to completion?

The cause of this could psychological in nature. Losing an erection or an absence of ejaculation is caused by any number of anxiety-related concerns. Some men have conscious and unconscious worries that effect erections or block ejaculations. They may worry about hurting the woman, about pregnancy, or they may have guilt about having sexual pleasure (often religious injunctions). They may have difficulties with intimacy and/or commitment. They may also be haunted by that nemesis of sexual dysfunctions -- performance anxiety. In other words, they are just plain trying too hard. In these instances the man is so concerned about giving his partner pleasure that he loses track of his own.

For you, my guess is the last reason. You want to see a doctor (since I am NOT one!). Have you tried Viagra, Cialis or Levitra? You may want to take that first step. Ask your doctor.

Dear Nancy,

I find myself in a rut. When making love to my wife, I get off and don't fell horny at all. It's good sex, then nothing. I need to get back into the swing of things. What do you suggest?

This is something more and more men are experiencing. First question is: How old are you?

The following suggestion is just a hunch (after all, I'm not a medical doctor!)

Men around 40 and above see a gradual shift in sexual behavior, as hormone production settles and the responsibilities and essentials of every-day living become prioritized. Although patterns differ drastically, many men see a tapering off in their sexual activity. Once they reach 40, it's natural for men to experience physical changes as metabolism slows and the body manufactures a lesser amount of testosterone. These obvious changes range from weight gain, hair loss, less physical endurance, longer recovery from injuries, and a waning interest in sex.

Men between the ages of 40 and 55, go through dramatic chemical and physiological changes that affect everything from a man's view on life, feelings of irritability and depression, to low libido resulting in a reduced interest in sex and in more extreme cases, an inability to attain and maintain an erection. Dramatic physical and emotional changes can be triggered by significant irregularities in hormone levels. Because of the similarities to the female traits, these symptoms combined are sometimes identified as “male menopause”; it is more commonly referred to in Europe as viropause or andropause.

Testosterone deficiency is usually misdiagnosed as general depression. My advice: see a doctor and have your testosterone levels checked. Once you find out if this could be the problem, speak with your medical doctor about the next steps.

Website’s that Border on Trademark Infringement

This practice has gotten out of control in the sexual enhancer arena, in particular. Many readers ask me about all kinds of products and as I research them on the Web, I’ve become alarmed at what some Werbsellers will stoop to in order to garner Web traffic.

So … Knowing that money is tight in these difficult economic times, and because reader have brought some of this behavior to light, as a service to my readers (and anyone that shops on the Web), I feel it’s my duty to give out a few “protection” pointers when shopping for sexual enhancements on the Web. Show people some examples of bogus or shadow sites, and provide some simple ways to use these fictitious sites to your advantage in order to find the better product you are looking for.

One Random Example

For example, this is a random site (I’ve heard of Orexis because of consumer complaints; I’ve never heard of Zenerx) I’ve pulled of Google to illustrate how a shadow site is intended to work and how to spot what product the site is shilling for:

The URL is http://impotenceguide.info/orexis-review.html

The corny doctor with the clipboard is the first dead giveaway; the 2d is the “comparision” chart. I clicked on “Let Us Know About Male Products You Have Used - Good and Bad” and emailed the Web administrator. Here’s what I posted:

“I've used both products: Orexis and Zenerx and found them to be of no help when it comes to helping erectile dysfunction. These products did not work, especially Zenerx.

There is no substitute for ED pharmaceuticals like Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra® Please compare Zenerx and Orexis with these top-selling ED medications.”

Because this ED “info” site is shilling for Zenerx, I can guarantee you not only will the site not publish my email, I will not even get a reply!

How to Spot Dubious Web Content

These sites are considered “shadow” or “shill” sites, meaning they are usually administered by a company selling a particular competing product. Shadow sites contain fabricated content (whether it be negative reviews of competitor’s product or fake or anonymous forum postings).The best way to spot these sites are if they are associated with sponsored ads (paid ads that are strategically placed on a search engine page (for example, Google) when a competitor’s product is typed in the search field. The obvious culprits are sites that claim to have hundreds of product reviews or product “comparison” charts. Some sites go as far as creating fictitious “awards” for the product that the page is shilling. Also, be on the lookout for sites with “blogs” that regardless of the product you are searching for, you are in some way magically “steered” to the same product that is somehow always mentioned as the “best” of the bunch.

Another dead giveaway is that the templates of each site (color, font, identical wording, etc) is almost always similar or exactly the same. This type of Web presence is illegal and dishonest.

How to Find Honest Product Reviews, Not Fake or “Planted” Ones

Before I list a bunch of the worst offenders, I want to explain how Web shoppers can discern honest user reviews from disguised ones.

The best way for users to find honest reviews and comments about products they’re thinking of purchasing is to read customer reviews on Amazon, eBay or some of the other legitimate auction sites. User comments found on sites like Amazon are verified before they are posted.

How Web Shoppers can Use These Fabricated Sites to Guide them to the Better Product

Companies that sell products that work don’t need to use their own product names to gain brand loyalty (For instance, the three ED medications I mentioned earlier (Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra®) speak for themselves.

Lets take a look at how someone using a search engine like Google can use the keywords that trigger all these “paid-for” sites to find the optimal product.

For an example, I typed “Serogen” into Google’s search bar.

Here’s some of the sponsored ads that came up:

www.viswiss.com

http://www.herbal-sex-secrets.com/

http://www.themanschoice.com

http://www.everestnutrition.com/?SSAID=279755

http://www.libidez.com/

Each Libidez™ capsule contains 420mg of an incredibly potent all-natural Erection Boosting Blend! This particular blend took over 7 years to perfect.

Libidez™ is comprised of a special blend of Herbs, Mushrooms and Greens.

Sexual Stimulant Blend 180mg

Organic Green Blend 60mg

I’ve also listed a few sites that have come up on the radar as “questionable.” The sites I’ve mentioned have either been reported by customers to consumer spots such as www.ripoffreport.com and www.complaints.com as well as sites with pending lawsuits against them as reported by Internet press release news services.

The following sites are guilty of this fraudulent behavior (most all of them are associated with the product, Orexis, distributed by Urban Nutrition.

www.ManTested.com

www.Herbal-Sex-Secrets.com

www.mensblogcustomers.com

www.themanschoice.com

www.mensblogtalk.com

I encourage my readers send email to me if you feel you have been misled or believe you have purchased a bogus product from a questionable Webseller.

Here are some other links to consumer complaints and board discussions that involve various male enhancement products (the names of the products are mentioned in the complaints and forum threads):

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/340/RipOff0340676.htm

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/129/RipOff0129374.htm#95699

http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/059/RipOff0059819.htm

http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/rip-off-c146214.html

http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THD@@.899f24ac!thdchild=.899f24ac/6

http://learntheropes.net/reports/2009/01/the-truth-about-the-original-swedish-ropes-formula/

A couple months ago, I noticed that the shaft of my penis beside the head and the foreskin around it became red, irritated, itchy, and it has some small spots on it. Sometimes there is no pain; other times it feels warm or just during intercourse it becomes very itchy and a bit painful. Is it some kind of allergy? Or it could be some kind of herpes infection?

I am very shy to visit my doctor.

Any advice?

A

Dear A,

Get to the doctor! This is a serious matter on many levels:

#1) Your health; and #2) The unfair possibility that you are likely passing on an STD to your partner.

Embarrassment IS NOT an option! You don’t have to visit your regular practitioner; any professional will do. Just get over it and take care of yourself. If not properly diagnosed and treated, your condition will only get worse and the likelihood of (unfairly) passing on a disease to one (or more) unsuspecting partners is unacceptable.

Hope this helps.

N-A