Uncut Masturbatory Annoyance
My penis is uncut and yet when I masturbate my foreskin becomes exposed and starts to get sensitive and it stings to the touch. I find this annoying. Is there any product that might help cut down on the irritation?
Jimmy
Whether circumcised or uncircumcised, the method of self sexual stimulation for all men is identical: the movement and friction created by using your own hands stimulates the nerve endings on the head and shaft of the penis. However, uncut men have more to worry about than their cut brothers.
Overly vigorous stimulation can sometimes lead to Phimosis and/or paraphimosis).
My gender limits me from giving you detailed advice, but one way to avoid the irritation you are experiencing is as simple as changing up your masturbatory approach and technique as well as lengthening the time between masturbatory intervals.
One effective way to reduce the onset of friction that might be leading your skin to become irritated is to use a good water-based lubricant (there are dozens of excellent Silicone-based lubricants on the market). Silicone-based lubricants are your best bet since they do not tend to get sticky and therefore are less likely to cause irritation (click here
Hope this helps.
Touchy, Tickley Situation
Dear Nancy:
My girlfriend has a very sensitive clit and it is so hard giving her oral sex. She says it hurts sometimes or it tickles too much. Can you give me any advice on what I need to do? Oral sex is one of my favorite things and its not working out.
E.S. - Via Internet
This is a "touchy" situation! Hmmm. The best way to approach her is to be verbally open, first and foremost, letting her know how important it is to please her orally. Then ... first step: warm her up with a bunch of foreplay. Next step: Let her touch herself while your mug is down in the area to be sucked. Let her allow herself to get excited and "loose" ... talk it out. This can be very sexy! Then let her guide first your fingers, then mouth and tongue, gently (tell her to keep an open dialogue the whole while).
With this type of approach, you hope that she becomes comfortable. If you're both patient enough, it will happen and the rewards will be unforgettable!
Last note: Do you have a beard or mustache? Chin spinach can be abrasive and uncomfortable. Even a light but coarse five-o'clock shadow can make for a tickle.
Hope this helps.
N-A
Pregnancy and Sex
My wife is pregnant and has no interest at all in sex or sexual acts what so ever. My question to you would be, what if any is your advice to arouse pregnant woman, I have tried a lot but nothing seems to work.
Thanks for any advice!
I'm sorry to tell you, if your wife is pregnant that's a perfectly understandable and legitimate reason to have zero interest in sex for awhile. You're just going to have to be understanding and patient - and maybe take matters into your own hands in the meantime!
Erectile Dysfunction
Nancy, could you explain me details about erection dysfunctions? How does it happen and how to cure it?
There are a lot of physical and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction. Reduced blood flow to the penis and nerve damage are the most common physical causes. Underlying conditions related to erectile dysfunction include the following:
Vascular disease- Diabetes
- Drugs
- Hormone disorders
- Neurologic conditions
- Pelvic trauma, surgery, radiation therapy
- Peyronie's disease
- Venous leak
- Psychological conditions
So, it is always my advice that you see a doctor first, so you can narrow down why you are having erectile dysfunction. As far as treatment for erectile dysfunction:
Sex Therapy
A significant number of men develop impotence from psychological causes that can be overcome.
Medical Treatment
- Oral Medications like Viagra or Levitra.
- Self-Injection to produce erections for about a half-hour.
- Penis pumps can help produce erections in men who are already able to get a semi.
I hope this helps. My first advice is to see a professional to understand why the erectile dysfunction is occurring.
Anal Sex Convincing?
How do I convince my wife to agree to anal sex?
My advice would be to ask her. Tell her that you think that it is really hot and you will make sure that you don’t hurt her. Make sure that she is completely relaxed. Maybe have a couple glasses of wine. If she is not relaxed it will hurt her. Make sure that you prepare her by inserting a finger or two into her anus. Use lubrication, it helps. You can use something like KY Jelly or lotion. Very slowly put your penis into your anus and tell her that if at any time she feels too uncomfortable that you will stop.
As a side note, do not pull your penis all the way out and then reinsert it fully again. This is a little painful. Good luck.
Update: From Askmen.com
Because anal sex feels good
Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.
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My girlfriend has recently enjoyed the use of sex toys, but it has not been positive in our sex life together. Now she cannot have an orgasm with me alone, as she once did several times during sex. It makes me feel like I am not doing my job anymore. Any advice?
Sex toys are great and can often be really important in having a healthy sexual relationship. In your case, it seems like sex toys are causing a bit of a problem. First off, I would suggest that you talk to your girlfriend about your concern that you are being replaced by toys. Sometimes what can help keep her sensitized is if she alternates using sex toys while she masturbates with using her hands. Help her get off without using sex toys. Stimulate her clit a bit more during foreplay. Give foreplay more time and really focus on making sure that she is close to orgasm before you actually have sex.
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