Need A Second Opinion
I am a 56 yr old black male who is having a problem with my erections.
Initially the cause was due to a mid-back injury. 3 herniated discs (non operable) that would cause muscle spasms that would end lovemaking with my wife. In September of last year I was diagnosed with diabetes. My doctor and diabetic nurse say that both can impact my ability to have or maintain an erection. When I am able to complete the act my ejaculation is nowhere near normal.
Is there anything that you can advise/suggest that my doctor and nurse have missed? The doctor just prescribed Viagra and it has not worked. I find it very depressing and I know that it is effecting my wife also because it bothers her that I cannot complete the act. She knows it is not her fault; I let her know that after 36 years of marriage I am still very much sexually attracted too her.
Thank you.
First of all, let me say that this must be a very frustrating situation for both you and your wife. It seems that first of all, you and your wife may need to revamp some of your ideas about sex. While it is frustrating that you are not able to ejaculate, that doesn't have to have such an impact of your wife's ideas about sex with you. Perhaps looking into some alternative sexual methods may make you feel closer to one another. My suggestion might be tantric sex, where emphasis is not placed on ejaculation, but being sexually present and satisfied with your partner. You do not have to let medical issues end your sexual relationship, but both you and your wife must be willing to explore new methods of arousal and satisfaction. Communication is essential as a first step. Good luck!
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SCAM SITE REPORTS
The nature of the Web has changed in the last year. Companies that sell products use sneaky optimization practices, create “shadow” sites and write negative reviews and comments about their competitor’s products in the hope to steal the competition away and lure them to the actual Web site that sells the site that gets all the made up accolades. The more you search the Web for products, the more you’ll see these kinds of sites. They are practically identical in nature and companies pay a great deal of money to “buy” these ad positions on search engines like Google and Yahoo. In order to have their advertisements seen they pay more money for their competitions’ product and company name, more money than the competitors pay for their trademarked names themselves!
Website’s that Border on Trademark Infringement
This practice has gotten out of control in the sexual enhancer arena, in particular. Many readers ask me about all kinds of products and as I research them on the Web, I’ve become alarmed at what some Werbsellers will stoop to in order to garner Web traffic.
So … Knowing that money is tight in these difficult economic times, and because reader have brought some of this behavior to light, as a service to my readers (and anyone that shops on the Web), I feel it’s my duty to give out a few “protection” pointers when shopping for sexual enhancements on the Web. Show people some examples of bogus or shadow sites, and provide some simple ways to use these fictitious sites to your advantage in order to find the better product you are looking for.
For example, this is a random site (I’ve heard of Orexis because of consumer complaints; I’ve never heard of Zenerx) I’ve pulled of Google to illustrate how a shadow site is intended to work and how to spot what product the site is shilling for:
The URL is http://impotenceguide.info/orexis-review.html
The corny doctor with the clipboard is the first dead giveaway; the 2d is the “comparision” chart. I clicked on “Let Us Know About Male Products You Have Used - Good and Bad” and emailed the Web administrator. Here’s what I posted:
“I've used both products: Orexis and Zenerx and found them to be of no help when it comes to helping erectile dysfunction. These products did not work, especially Zenerx.
There is no substitute for ED pharmaceuticals like Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra® Please compare Zenerx and Orexis with these top-selling ED medications.”
Because this ED “info” site is shilling for Zenerx, I can guarantee you not only will the site not publish my email, I will not even get a reply!
How to Spot Dubious Web Content
These sites are considered “shadow” or “shill” sites, meaning they are usually administered by a company selling a particular competing product. Shadow sites contain fabricated content (whether it be negative reviews of competitor’s product or fake or anonymous forum postings).The best way to spot these sites are if they are associated with sponsored ads (paid ads that are strategically placed on a search engine page (for example, Google) when a competitor’s product is typed in the search field. The obvious culprits are sites that claim to have hundreds of product reviews or product “comparison” charts. Some sites go as far as creating fictitious “awards” for the product that the page is shilling. Also, be on the lookout for sites with “blogs” that regardless of the product you are searching for, you are in some way magically “steered” to the same product that is somehow always mentioned as the “best” of the bunch.
Another dead giveaway is that the templates of each site (color, font, identical wording, etc) is almost always similar or exactly the same. This type of Web presence is illegal and dishonest.
How to Find Honest Product Reviews, Not Fake or “Planted” Ones
Before I list a bunch of the worst offenders, I want to explain how Web shoppers can discern honest user reviews from disguised ones.
The best way for users to find honest reviews and comments about products they’re thinking of purchasing is to read customer reviews on Amazon, eBay or some of the other legitimate auction sites. User comments found on sites like Amazon are verified before they are posted.
How Web Shoppers can Use These Fabricated Sites to Guide them to the Better Product
Companies that sell products that work don’t need to use their own product names to gain brand loyalty (For instance, the three ED medications I mentioned earlier (Viagra,® Cialis, ® and Levitra®) speak for themselves.
Lets take a look at how someone using a search engine like Google can use the keywords that trigger all these “paid-for” sites to find the optimal product.
For an example, I typed “Serogen” into Google’s search bar.
Here’s some of the sponsored ads that came up:
www.viswiss.com
http://www.herbal-sex-secrets.com/
http://www.themanschoice.com
http://www.everestnutrition.com/?SSAID=279755
http://www.libidez.com/
Each Libidez™ capsule contains 420mg of an incredibly potent all-natural Erection Boosting Blend! This particular blend took over 7 years to perfect.
Libidez™ is comprised of a special blend of Herbs, Mushrooms and Greens.
Sexual Stimulant Blend 180mg
Organic Green Blend 60mg
I’ve also listed a few sites that have come up on the radar as “questionable.” The sites I’ve mentioned have either been reported by customers to consumer spots such as www.ripoffreport.com and www.complaints.com as well as sites with pending lawsuits against them as reported by Internet press release news services.
The following sites are guilty of this fraudulent behavior (most all of them are associated with the product, Orexis, distributed by Urban Nutrition.
www.ManTested.com
www.Herbal-Sex-Secrets.com
www.mensblogcustomers.com
www.themanschoice.com
www.mensblogtalk.com
I encourage my readers send email to me if you feel you have been misled or believe you have purchased a bogus product from a questionable Webseller.
Here are some other links to consumer complaints and board discussions that involve various male enhancement products (the names of the products are mentioned in the complaints and forum threads):
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/340/RipOff0340676.htm
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/129/RipOff0129374.htm#95699
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/0/059/RipOff0059819.htm
http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/rip-off-c146214.html
http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THD@@.899f24ac!thdchild=.899f24ac/6
http://learntheropes.net/reports/2009/01/the-truth-about-the-original-swedish-ropes-formula/